Lasting reflection
Obituaries and Memorial Programs
Written with Style and Grace
Beyond Obituaries
While my work is dedicated to honoring and reflecting on lives through obituaries, my love for writing extends beyond remembrance. This space is where I explore stories, reflections, and essays that don’t fit within the confines of my main blog. Here, you’ll find personal musings, short fiction, and thoughts on life, memory, and storytelling itself.
Writing obituaries has taught me that every life holds countless stories—some of them written, some still waiting to be told. This page is for those stories. I hope you enjoy reading them as much as I enjoy writing them.
Meat Me in Houston
Meat Me in Houston About 2.3 million people live in Houston, most of them willingly. I wanted to know why. But I would have little time there – just the bookends of a two-day conference. So, I decided to do a small thing well. I would eat barbeque. ...
Write
Write Take this advice from someone old enough to have regrets. Write. Write early and often. Write late and dream of what you will write tomorrow. Write about friends: the ones who make you laugh, the ones who make you think, and the ones who...
What’s New at NuNu’s?
What’s New at NuNu’s? NuNu’s is a throwback bar – same booths (newer Naugahyde skin notwithstanding), same bar configuration, same mirror, same cheap colored-glass pool-hall light fixtures, same dark film-noir ambience as it had in the 1960s. A look at the old photos...
Act 1 – Gonnections, Scene 5 – The Writer Escapes
Act 1 – Gonnections Scene 5 – The Writer Escapes In the last episode, our intrepid 23-year-old protagonist was writing contracts for about a million dollars worth of construction work with barely a clue… But it looked like I was going to get through it. Then,...
Act 1 – Gonnections, Scene 4 – Building a Future
Act 1 – Gonnections Scene 4 – Building a Future So things went well enough at McMillin through 1978. I was in Marketing at the end of that year, setting up model-home sales offices, writing ad copy, and taking photos of houses. My boss was just 10 years older...
Act 1 – Gonnections, Scene 3 – Career Day
Act 1 – Gonnections Scene 3 – Career Day My dad was a real estate loan officer with a major bank. He knew a number of local builders, including a fellow named Corky McMillin who had enjoyed some success since starting with one house in the mid-1960s. My dad got...
Act 1 – Gonnections, Scene 2 – Poverty is Transferable
Act 1 – Gonnections Scene 2 – Poverty is Transferrable The revolution died in Lakeside in June 1973. All of the momentum from the late 1960s – the music, the protests, the optimism – seemed to disintegrate after McGovern got clobbered in November 1972. On a...
Act 1 – Gonnections, Scene 1 – Love on a Budget
Act 1 – Gonnections Scene 1 – Love on a Budget First, let’s establish some context. I was a senior at U.C. Berkeley in January 1977. I had spent my junior year and the first quarter of my senior year in a dorm. Much silliness and a little studying later, I...
My Typewriter is in the Smithsonian. My Words Are Not.
My Typewriter is in the Smithsonian. My Words Are Not. My typewriter is in the Smithsonian. Well not my actual typewriter. But I had the same model as this one. The venerable Olivetti Lettera 32. Mine was stolen, taken from my locked truck in Balboa Park...
Train Ride Home
Train Ride Home The train whistles as it approaches the intersection. It’s dark – and seems even more so because the rail car is so well lit. But I can make out the industrial yards with their cobra-headed security lamps, the yellow of sodium here, the...